I grew up next door to a boy one year older than me. His parents hosted my baby shower, a co-ed barbecue that he attended with his wife and their one-year old son. At the shower, my childhood friend, now a dad and a recent business school graduate, spoke these words of wisdom to me and Ryan: First three months, no ROI.
It is true.
There is not a lot of return on your investment in a baby in the first couple of months. You endure physical pain, hormonal intensity, and a fair amount of overtime, weekends and holidays included. Finally, after a couple of months, the tiny paychecks start to trickle in. Baby smiles. Plumper cheeks to kiss. Eye contact.
Yes! This is what I signed up for!
And from where I sit now, I am rolling in the dough. I am drawing a full salary with these two walking and talking kids, who make the most mundane of tasks an adventure. Sometimes, a laugh riot.
Truths that were unveiled to me yesterday:
Brushing your teeth is more fun when you place a towel over your head to block your vision.
Placing coins in a parking meter is a thrill.
Getting your own spoon out of the drawer is cause for boastful announcements. “I can reach it myself!”
Kicking one’s small legs to the beat of Moves Like Jagger as we drive through the dark, sudsy tunnel of the carwash is a 3-minute party.
Being allowed to bring your two favorite books to preschool is no small delight.
Though the whining and bickering — still daily — can bring me down, it feels really good to think about all the dull things I do on a regular basis and how much more I enjoy them through the eyes of Julian and Scarlett. That joy is the return on my investment.
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Oh I love this – we are rich beyond our wildest dreams!
Well said, Momma, well said indeed!
Hey, so first off your blog is super cute.. Second.. I am not a mommie yeeeett.. nor am I prego.. yeeeet.. but I have a heart for stay at home moms (currently a military stay at home wife myself). So some of my current endeavors include cloth diaper/baby stuff sewing which leads me to lots of idea filled mommie blogs, yours included. I am also in the SLC area..
So on to the point. I am a consultant for the pampered chef and on the hunt for some mommy groups/families/folks interested in test driving my newest theme show “Mom’s and Tot’s”.. which will focus on how to use Pampered Chef kitchen tools to make healthy homemade baby foods and snacks etc.
So as a well connected and creative SLC mommy.. do you know any groups in the area or referrals who might me interested in having a cooking class in their home/or at a meeting? Thanks so much and keep blogging.. I’m excited to return when mommie status kicks in!
Phyllis Herbe
phyllischill@gmail.com
http://www.pamperedchef.com
Hi Phyllis, Thanks for visiting. We are not in SLC, but good luck with recruiting for your show.
yes!
Love this and sooo agree!
Being less than 3 weeks in with this little guy, I loved your ROI analogy, and very much needed it today. Thank you so much.
So true… My husband’s co-worker also calls babies during that first 3 month period as “black holes of affection”… Basically the same premise that there isn’t any ROI. So true and often unsaid. Thankfully they are so darn cute that it doesn’t matter.
@Christina, I love “black holes of affection”! So funny.
My husband had a much harder time during the first 3 months – at least I had the biology attachment to see me through. We’re trying for a second and we JUST talked about how hard the first bit was but now we know how amazing being mom and dad can be and how relatively fleeting that early hard time is. This second will be our last … I wonder if we’ll feel differently about the less than pleasant stages knowing they won’t ever happen again. Any 2nd time moms experience that?
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