Comments on: Twins Week: Beyond the rookie years

By: Alla

Alla — Fri, 27 Jan 2012 21:24:32 +0000

Thank you! Thank you for this post. I have 7 month old twin boys. This blog entry gives me hope and brings tears to my tired eyes.

By: Cate

Cate — Tue, 19 Jul 2011 03:54:53 +0000

Now that is the cutest bromance picture!

By: KellyS

KellyS — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 20:59:03 +0000

Ha! I am trying to go through the potty training two boys right now (they just turned 2, I know wishful thinking on my part), with my third on the way. I am happy to hear that the third will be easy compared to the twins. I still don’t really remember the first 3 months of their lives… sleep deprivation. It did get somewhat easier after 4 months, and then again at a year, but then they are mobile and you have other problems. Right now we have the two wrestlers/climbers and trying to keep them from jumping on each other and me is tiring.

By: Rachel A.

Rachel A. — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 16:43:22 +0000

Krista, your words reminded me of just how utterly consuming that first year is. It’s not a terrible question; having two babies at the same time can be overwhelming.

My twin sons are 7 now and I would disagree with the moms that say it never gets easier. Changing all those diapers, making all of those bottles/meals, engaging with two small children who are both struggling with separation anxiety, etc. — those are particularly effort-intense times. As twins age, the challenges of parenting changes and can become more subtle. But I can say that it’s a way different world when my boys wake up and choose to play cars with each other instead of crying for a parent.

I will say that looking at baby pics of my twins over the past week, I’ve got a little nostalgic for their chubby little legs and faces. When the boys were little, all those older parents would tell me “enjoy this while you can!” as I’d smile wanly but now I get it. Especially for those of us who are only parenting one set of twins, as the children age and move through their developmental stages, when it’s gone, it’s gone. No getting to re-live it with a younger child.

So, if you can, take a moment and smell your babies’ heads and feel those squishy little thighs and try to memorize all their sweetness!

By: b.

b. — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 13:51:38 +0000

agh!!! We’re at 16 months and it’s a long way til four years old. I LOVE my boys, of course, but I can’t even do the dishes without someone collapsed at my feet in tears because they want mommy to play with them…to sit and read a book would be heaven.

By: Marnie

Marnie — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 05:00:27 +0000

Laura!!! Is there anything that you DON’T rock at? This is an awesome post! It really puts it into perspective. I am constantly saying these days – now that the girls are 4.5 – is: “I never thought I would ever say this, BUT, having twins is MUCH easier then having a singleton!” They play SO well together that it actually allows me time to try to remember what I used to like to do in my “spare time.” Of course, chasing after Jackson means I’m not TOTALLY out of the woods yet! But since I first “met” you on your blog you have always been 6 months ahead of me and I love reading and watching as you cross each rookie milestone a little bit ahead of me. It constantly gives me faith that this is do-able!

Also – to a few commenters above:

Sarah: sleep regressions….STICKER CHARTS! This has worked wonders for us. Especially our Baby A is an awesome sleeper. Baby B’s competitive drive keeps her sleeping well to earn stickers and eventually rewards as well as her sister does.

Leslie: having a singleton after twins is CAKE. Sure there are time when you and your husband will be totally outnumbered and your home will be 10x the circus it is now but my girls were the same age your twins are now when I found out I was pregnant again. Not only will it be EASY but you will love the guilt-free snuggle and feeding time you will have with a singleton. No worrying about the other baby that’s fussy,etc… I HIGHLY recommend it!

By: melanie

melanie — Fri, 15 Jul 2011 03:36:11 +0000

I love this! I have 17 mth old twins. It has been the biggest blessing of our lives..and the most challenging. I have learned things I never thought I would have to (but I excel at them now :O) I think you have to be a twin mommy to truly understand what goes into being a twin parent. I am now volunteering at our hospitals NICU to “give back” we were so fortunate with the care we got. It does however make me really appreciate how blessed we are (times 2) it makes all the hard times a little easier seeing and remembering all the scary uncertain times…I even try and appreciate the crying and sleeplessness…I TRY!! ) Good luck to all you twin moms! We are in this together and it does give me hope and faith knowing that this 1st year sadly flew by but more exciting and “easier” times are to come.

By: Leslie

Leslie — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 23:05:47 +0000

Thank you so much for this post! This was so much nicer to hear than the typical responses I get when I ask when life with twins gets easier. I love the smirk followed by “oh, my twins are 25 years old and I STILL haven’t gotten over it!” I wonder if this will help convince my husband to have a third child.. Our b/g twins are 25 months old, and he’s convinced it’ll be this crazy forever!

By: Krista

Krista — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 22:23:21 +0000

Is it bad that I had tears in my eyes at the end of this?? We are only 9 months in and I also constantly ask myself that question- when does it get easier?! Sometimes I feel like a terrible person for asking that question, and I’ve pretty much stopped saying it aloud as other, veteran moms will kinda laugh knowingly and tell me it never does. I don’t think those moms know what it means to have infant twins…

By: Nicole @MTDLBlog

Nicole @MTDLBlog — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 22:17:37 +0000

Having twins is quite a journey. We had a very high risk pregnancy and fortunately now have two healthy little girls to show for the endless weeks of worry. Although I’m looking forward to that day when they are more independent like my 6 year old daughter, I know I will miss the squishy, loveable baby phase they are still currently in now. It’s all so bittersweet.

By: Terumi

Terumi — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 22:02:00 +0000

Thank you:) My guys turn 3 in a couple weeks and your post gives me so much hope: we’re on the potty training stage right now and it is a mess. Love the pics and you totally summed up being a double momma so beautifully:)

By: Janna

Janna — Thu, 14 Jul 2011 16:04:32 +0000

Love this post! The pictures are priceless! I always tell people who ask about how hard it is with my twins that the first three months were so terrible that nothing seems that hard after that – ha!