I think Heather and I have both been pretty honest here: We were shocked and disappointed by how boring our babies were after they were born. They never said, “Hey mom, let’s go get you some new jeans and a latte.”
Spending all day with someone who has no suggestions for conversation topics or activities can get lonely. That’s why we started blogging.
In addition to being surprised by my son’s dull personality at the tender age of three weeks, there are a few other basic things about babies that I learned in that first year. Other moms have told me about facts that they were surprised to learn “on the job”, too. Here are five important truths about babies that should be learned by every pregnant woman.
- Babies sleep a lot, perhaps even 20 hours a day at first. If a baby is awake for two straight hours, the thing to do with him is put him back to sleep. He may even be ready after an hour, but does not know how to drift off on his own. Much of what a new parent spends her time doing is putting a baby back to sleep.
- Diapers leak. It does not matter how masterfully the diaper was put on the baby, sometimes shit leaks out the sides or top. For realz. My husband, a problem solver with a strong work ethic, had a hard time accepting diaper failure. My advice is to discuss this fact with your partner and agree that you will not blame one another when your infant’s jammies are soaked from ankle to neck. It happens.
- Babies like to suck. That’s why pacifiers were invented. I’m not suggesting you use a pacifier, but it is important to acknowledge that your child’s urge to suck is normal and they may want to nurse for hours because it feels good. I personally used a pacifier with my children when I learned how much it soothed them. The element by which I was surprised is how long their urge to put things in their mouth lasts. Six month-olds and sixteen month-olds definitely want to jam their fist, your glasses, and that disgusting tissue that’s sticking out of your pocket into their mouths as quickly as possible. Six YEARS old? Yep, they still want to, but they pretty much know better.
- Feedings are frequent. A new baby needs to eat every two to three hours. I’ll do the math for you: eight to twelve times per day. I put this in writing for you because although Heather observed me care for Julian for six months before having her own baby, she assumed my boobs were only needed for breakfast, lunch, and dinner equivalents. She was overwhelmed and bewildered to learn that her postpartum body was on call to provide sustenance with such frequency when Holden was born.
- Babies will make you proud. Whether you are basking in the pride of creation or the act of adoption, you will do things you swore you’d never do because you are convinced your baby is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to anyone ever. You will take more pictures of your immobile offspring than you can store on your computer. You will tell people the most granular details about your life as a parent, such as what time your child woke up for the past nine mornings, as measured in minutes. You will secretly feel superior to your friends who have chosen not to have children, because they don’t even know what the meaning of life is. I’m not saying this to make fun of you. I say this because I feel this way. Because my own babies (ages 7 and 4) are still a marvelous novelty to me and I am truly proud. I am saying this because every expectant parent thinks, “I won’t be that way,” when their friends tell boring stories about sleep training or strollers. Yet the fact is: you will.
What knocked your socks off or left you confused after the birth of your child? What else did Heather not know when this photo was taken?
Heather at Week 39 holding Whitney's 6-month old. What is he going to do with those strings from my shirt? What? Why would he put them in his mouth!?
Note that we have a book coming out this spring called Stuff Every Mom Should Know and none of these facts are in it. Whoops!
Ok first, wow, I’m huge. Second, I don’t know how I didn’t know all that stuff considering that you had a six month old and (I thought) I was watching your every move.
But still.
If you visit another new mom and she nurses once during your visit, it’s easy not to realize she had to do it before you arrived and immediately after you left.
And BTW, my babies NEVER nursed as seldom as 8 times a day as newborns. I am only doing 8 times NOW with a nearly six month old and he gets 2-3 bottles a day. Yawn.
Also, some infants nurse 45 minutes or more at a time!! Then you start again in another 45 minutes. WTH. Not all, of course.
I think the thing that surprised me that most was how long it took to recover from pregnancy and birth. The pain didn’t last long but the hormones, the giant squashy belly, the sleep deprivation, and the isolation all took much longer to even out. I didn’t feel like myself for months and I wasn’t expecting that.
Everyone is so excited for you and they usually assume that you’re joyful all the time too. My advice to new moms is to find someone who will listen and sympathize about the crappy stuff so that you CAN enjoy the good parts.
My first thought in response to your question was, “Um…how babies are made?”, but then I realized Heather was holding YOUR baby in the picture. (Right?) After my son was born, I remember thinking that no one – no matter what they said while I was pregnant – could have prepared me for how difficult motherhood would be. But, a dear friend quickly reminded me that neither can anyone prepare you for how rewarding it will be. SO true. Oh, and breastfeeding is seldom enjoyed from the get-go. I almost threw in the towel about 3 weeks in, but I got through the difficulties with some practical advice and was able to breastfeed my little guy until he was 13 months old.
my advice to new parents is to not sweat the small stuff. Coming from someone who is way over informed, I know this is easier said than done, I know…but the truth is, babies and children will grow up in spite of us and there are only a few ways you can truly mess them up. So, try not to obsess over the fact that your baby will only sleep in the swing. Strap him in and enjoy your zzzz’s…you need it and eventually he’ll get the hang of the bed. Don’t worry if you can’t breast feed, a happy mama with a bottle is better than a frazzled mama with no milk coming out. And know that your baby’s brain will develop the same whether you take her to mommy and me, read books or just chat while going through your everyday routine.
I was not prepared for the lack of sleep. New mamas should know that they absolutely need to sleep when they can. I mean, I grew up with my baby cousin at our house basically since she was born and THOUGHT I knew what I was in for but when you are hit with the train of sleep deprivation, hormones, pain, a giant squishy belly and nursing every hour and a half (or 45 minutes)…holy shnikes.
And then with my second, I THOUGHT I KNEW, but nope. New baby, new rules. This one slept all night but nursed for an hour….every 45 minutes.
You have to do everything with one arm, because you’ll be holding the baby with the other. So practice getting something from the back of the bottom shelf of the refrigerator with only your left arm (or right arm if you’re left handed). And then try eating while holding a wiggling puppy on your lap.
I was not prepared for how miserable and exhausted I would be in the beginning due to lack of sleep and the fact that my daughter was extremely fussy. True story: it took 2 years to get pregnant, required fertility treatments, and the pregnancy was joyful. Then, a week or so after my daughter was born I was leaning on the kitchen counter, sobbing, thinking “I really should have thought this through.” On a lighter note, I did not know when I had my baby that there are little activities you can do with them at home…”floor time” movement types of things, songs, baby massage, etc., that I learned about in a class for moms and newborns. You don’t need to just sit around and hold the baby when you are home. I encourage all new moms to sign up for a class like that if there is one in their area. You learn a lot.
Similar to what Lauren said—I was surprised that no one had really told me what my body would feel like in the weeks after delivering. So much emphasis is always given on pre-birth and the actual birthing process, but not much about the afterwards. Perhaps naively, I expected things to just ‘snap back into place’ immediately, and that definitely didn’t happen. It felt like it took months before I finally felt ‘normal’.
Now that I have a year and a half old, I still find myself surprised at the amount of emotion that he elicits from me and how the fierce protective nature of being a mother is something that is so tangible and potent. Motherhood is a constant surprise…especially in how feelings of elation and pride can also be paralleled with that of frustration and helplessness. It truly is amazing and I wouldn’t trade the experience for anything else.
You forgot #6… If you are nursing, you will be hungry all the time… and thirsty. You thought were hungry when you were pregnant but that is nothing compared to the hunger the first few weeks of nursing. But BONUS, you can eat all the time and still lose weight!
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The thing that surprised me most was the postpartum healing process both mentally and physically. I thought that with a new baby I would just have this perfectly happy glow to me all the time, but becoming a parent changes you on so many levels and it takes time to adjust.
Growth spurt days were the other surprise. I never thought a baby would live at the boob for a day!
I had no idea the hormones after delivery would cause me to cry A LOT! It started the day I left the hospital and stopped at 7pm on Thursday night. Like a switch. I cried all day. Not sad, not mad, not tired, not overwhelmed. Just weepy. I would cry while laughing. Just 4 days of tears. No one told me…..
I think what surprised me the most is how helpless I felt, not at first but a few months into it. I finally feel confident as a mommy but I was SOO worried about doing it wrong, or not by the book, or how I really had no clue about certain things, that it took me 6 months and a dose of reality for me to feel good about my choices as a parent. Then you realize, you really can’t mess them up if you love them your way. I still look at people and say “what do I do now” when new situations arise, but then I take what I know and what I am told and figure out how it works for us.
People say PPD hits in the early days but for me, I started getting anxious when what I was expecting (i.e. all the nursing, sleepless nights, exploding diapers) was gone and what I wasn’t ready for (feelings of helplessness, feelings of missing my old life at times, changes in schedules every other day) hit. Like the way they will change schedules on you out of no where. That was hard. My baby went from sleeping through the night at 6 weeks and 6 weeks later, has been waking up 2-5 times a night ever sense. I still can’t catch up on sleep. LOL!
But he’s at a stage now that he recognizes me and the joy in his face when he sees me makes me feel a way I never thought I could.
ODDEST feeling though, through all the hard moments, feelings of resentment, sleeplessness, and all those other feelings that you think you shouldn’t have as a new mommy (which is bull, you can feel however it is you need to feel- IT WILL PASS) I CAN’T WAIT FOR ANOTHER BABY! Sorta like a tattoo- they are addicting!
P.S. I loved this post…babies are boring..AT FIRST! I started blogging for that reason too!
I didn’t know that it starts getting easier around 3 months. Don’t get me wrong, my husband and I still view sleep as a hot commodity, but life is beginning to move forward with some predictability. Our son is almost 4 months old now and is starting to organize himself into noticable patterns and rhythms. He sleeps more at night, naps better during the day and is developing quite the personality.
Like a previous commenter, I also did not expect to miss my old, pre-baby life as much as I did in the beginning. It was like I was in mourning for the person I used to be and life I once had. All perfectly normal feelings, but they were so much more exacerbated by the postpartum hormones raging throughout my body in the early weeks.
I would be remiss if I didn’t mention just how frightening the whole boob situation can be. My mom breastfed me and my sisters, and I took a breastfeeding class, but no one told me that they would tingle and hurt right before the milk let down. Nor how giant, painful, and scary they would be when the milk came in. Eventually they are not so huge, but the tingling persists upon letdown.
Also, the best thing I ever did was decide to spend two weeks after giving birth in bed with my baby. It gave me time to recover, time to establish nursing, and as a bonus, people don’t like to hang out for very long in your bedroom! I didn’t figure that trick out until my third baby though, after suffering major PPD with the first two.
I’m still really surprised at how unprepared I was/still am for the lack of sleep. A sleep schedule is getting somewhat better with my 8 week old, but it’s still really tough.
I’m also adjusting to my new body after pregnancy. I am smaller than pre-pregnancy but it still doesn’t feel quite like my body yet. No one really prepares you for how life is postpartum.
Moms-to-be should know that, even if you really don’t want one, you might have to have a c-section. And if you do, accept any and all help. Let your MIL stay at your house if she wants. Whatever it takes, because you have to deal with all of this other stuff (no sleep, hormones, etc.) AND you are in a great deal of pain for the first several weeks.
First let me say that this thread is a Godsend for me today! I spent the afternoon holding a screaming 8 week old and crying because I couldn’t soothe him and I felt like I was a terrible mother! Like an earlier post-er, our son was a long-term project following miscarriages, fertility treatments, premature birth, and weeks in NICU. Now that he is home, I feel like I should be joyful every moment, grateful for this blessing, and I truly am grateful, but I am also overwhelmed and exhausted! In my pre-baby life I was always in control and knew what I was doing. Now, every decision I make is pretty much a guess! A friend told me today to remember that all these baby stages are temporary and that really helped me. I can look at my screaming, fussy, impossible to soothe baby and realize that tomorrow is another day and there will be another after that and so on. One day I may even miss a day like today (although I seriously, seriously doubt it!). On a positive note, I never really understood the depth of love I would feel. I knew I would love him, but I just didn’t really get what that meant. Now I do and it makes everything else ok.
@Rachel, My son was so colicky, I dreaded being left alone with him. That phase felt eternal but I am happy to report it is really in the rearview mirror. And this was my third (blessed) baby boy. I was so ready to be the chilled out third-time mom. Well ha ha. Turns out it is still hard having someone scream in your face for hours at a time with every fiber of their little being.
I’m so glad I found this! I’m a first time mom to my 2 week old little boy, and I can’t stand not having all the answers. Like someone said earlier, it’s all a guess! No one told me that my milk wouldn’t be in yet (if it ever does come in), and that I’d be nursing, pumping, and supplementing with formula and getting more confused each day if my baby was getting enough! No one mentioned all the visitors that are so well-intentioned, but who cause any small bit of schedule we once had to fly out the door! I know I can make it through. One day I’ll look back and smile, but it just all seems so hard! I just want to give my baby what he needs!
Hey there I am a new mom and I am so excited that I found this blog. I have been looking for blogs but it is mainly mothers talking about thereselves and not really giving advice. Thank you so much!
I have to say what a breathe of fresh air this blog is…it’s nice to know that I’m not the only new mom battling these overwhelming emotions! My husband and I have dated since high school and waited till we were in our 30′s to have children, for so long it was just the two of us & our lives. As much as we wanted to start a family and love our 10 week daughter (which all goes w/o saying) we find ourselves like a previous commenter “not expecting to miss my old, pre-baby life as much as I did in the beginning. It was like I was in mourning for the person I used to be and life I once had” SO VERY TRUE!!
I would also add that no matter how perfect your relationship is, you WILL become resentful towards your partner for no good reason- and it will happen often at first as you both adjust to parenthood!
Agreed about the boob-related surprises! I knew they’d swell up but oh my goodness. The engorgement was scary, the leaking is crazy, and the letdown cramps are surreal. 5 weeks pp I can’t lie on my stomach and don’t want my partner to even touch them they’re so tender. They also look completely different than ever before.
That said, I also look better in tight tops! But sheesh–I wasn’t expecting their care and sensations to be so central to my days.
Wow, finally a blog that speaks truth! I’ve been searching for mothers who felt the same way I am feeling since my first daughter was born almost 3 weeks ago. The love I have for her is undeniable and powerful, but I’ve felt so guilty about wondering if my husband and I made the right choice. I almost wish these newborn days away and want to skip to the more predictable (as if!) later months of having a baby. I also felt stupid insisting I didn’t need to read any books to prepare or take any classes because I’ve been accustomed to having babies (nieces and nephews) around me since I was a teenager. As I believe the author of his blog (or her friend Heather said) I thought I’d seen it all and would be prepared. Silly me! I’ve also found myself comparing myself to my sister in law who delivered a baby girl two months before I did. It’s a lot of pressure when moms only talk about the wonderful blissful moments. You’re left wondering “am I a bad mom with an unruly newborn?” I finally broke down to my sister the other day and said ” why didn’t you tell me it would be so hard?!” Her answer? “I did. You just didn’t want to listen. No one thinks it’ll be that hard for them I that it will w hard for long periods of time. You just thought those few moments of crying was it. ” She’s so right. I jut ignored the hard parts. The lack of sleep, the constant worrying, the round the clock feedings….it takes a BIG toll on a new mom. I constantly feel anxious, scared, and nervous. Tomorrow is my husband’s first day back to work and I am scared to death! I’m worried he won’t get enough sleep now, worried about driving with my newborn by myself, worried about running errands with a baby that wants to eat every hour. Oh, and I also didn’t realize breast feeding would be so difficult. My otherwise so far healthy newborn has lost weight in the last week…not gained like she should. Just yesterday I started supplementing with formula hich I feel tremendous guilt over, especially when being told I need to exclusively breast feed. I’m just desperate for her to gain weight so I’m doing whatever I have to! Thank you all for your realistic comments! I don’t feel so bad now.
Oh, Nicole. Big hugs to you. My friend who was 5 weeks ahead of me insisted she told me breastfeeding would hurt. That jogged my memory that I DID hear her and dismissed with a “that won’t happen to me,” thought.
Please come back and visit often! And head over to our 52 challenges to keep yourself busy. (See the sidebar link)
Thank you, Whitney. I’ve actually frequented this blog multiple times already. Something reassuring about knowing you’re not alone in this scary but beautiful ride. Thank you!
P.s. please excuse all my spelling/grammatical errors in my last post. Texting on an iPhone while breast feeding isn’t so easy…yet!
I agree with so many that have commented…I had no clue about the lack of sleep! And I can’t seem to nap during the day when my daughter (who is 2 weeks) sleeps, it’s like my mind is racing but my body is SO tired.
It is also overwhelming for me, a person who was very active during pregnancy, to be at home with an infant and not be able to be out and doing my “old life”.
There is tremendous joy when i look at my child but there are real challenges no one talks about, thank you for this post and for the comments ladies! Makes me feel less alone.
Got a notification there were new comments here. I just read mine from when my baby was 2 weeks old. I was a complete disaster when I wrote it, and never in my life have I been a disaster. I’ve always been in control, well prepared, calm, etc. Well…my baby is 6 mos. old now and all I can say is how much things DID GET BETTER! At first, they got worse as my little one had acid reflux and literally stopped sleeping altogether – day and night -until about 8 weeks old when we figured things out. My milk never did come in, but I had to get over the guilt of that. I couldn’t beat myself up anymore. There are still hard days, and although I’ll never be my old self, I’m much more comfortable with my “new” self. I’m already laughing at how scared I was to take him out into the world. He seemed so fragile, not to mention unpredictable! For those new mommies reading and posting, I’m thinking about you, and please know we know how you feel, even if your husband doesn’t know what to do with all of your emotions!
I’m going to be an aunt for the first time, & reading your blog post has helped a lot (ITS NOT JUST FOR MOMMIES!) My niece will be spending a lot of time in my house since my sister works. Can I have more tips on how to be a great aunt while taking care of my niece? I’m only 16 and I’m excited but scared!
Oh my goodness! I am so happy I found this blog! I expected everything to be so joyous and happy all the time after I gave birth. I also thought that I would feel this overwhelming bond to my son as soon as he was born. I also thought everything would just fall into place with breastfeeding, but it is HARD!!! He is now 3.5 weeks old and I just now am started to feel connected with him. No one ever told me that it takes time to bond and that most of the time is just endless nursing in the beginning. Thank you all so much for sharing your stories!
Welcome, Mindy! Congrats on your baby and on making it through the first month. It IS hard! Please feel free to come back anytime to ask questions, vent, or share your victories. We’re here to support each other.
When I last posted a comment on here my daughter was 3 weeks old. She will now be 8 weeks tomorrow. I’m definitely starting to see a little personality and her constant smiles make my body feel warm and I still tear up every time I see them. I’m more comfortable now bringing her out by myself and I’ve learned not to stress as much over having her on a strict schedule. Babies tend to make their own schedule and it seems to change weekly, if not daily. However, last week we started having her sleep in her own crib in her own room. It kind of happened by accident. She was particularly fussy one night so I brought her into the office to soothe her to sleep without waking my husband and just decided to lay her in there. She did very well her first night and in the last week she has has only a couple “tough” nights. However, my anxiety is increasing. I put her to bed, but instead of going to my own bed myself, I sleep in the office (which is closer to her room by about 5 feet) and keep the monitor next to my ear. I guess I wasn’t ready to move her out of our room yet, but now I’m too concerned that if I bring her back in that I’ll lose any progress we’ve made with the crib sleeping and ill have to start all over again in a couple months when we decide it is time for her to be back in her room. Has anyone else had these anxieties? It almost makes me feel depressed. Or maybe I am depressed? Not too sure!
Nicole, I think you are just acting like a normal first time mom. I remember alternating between panic mode and total despair the first year because of my child’s sleep habit. I yhink they sell those breathing monitors that can alert you if they detect anything abnormal… angel care movement monitor is one…
I am so glad to have found this blog! My daughter is 3 Wks old and I have been dealing with the out of control emotions, missing my old life. My first daughter is 6 and she is loving being a big sis but I find I really miss my time with just her. Sometimes I think “what did we do”. Even though we tried so hard for this second baby. The guilt I feel from having those feelings is too much sometimes. It helps to read that I’m not alone.
@Jenn, All I can tell you is that you’re soooo not alone with that feeling.
I agree, Jenn. I only have 1, but those emotions were just out of control those first weeks. I can’t imagine having another baby right now. My first baby is my life!
Just remember that as your kids get older, they will appreciate having each other to plot against mom and dad, and you will appreciate the relationship they have! 
OMG CAN ANYONE SAY ANYTHING POSITIVE! I AM 6 MONTHS AND THIS SITE IS SUPER NEGATIVE..NO ONE SAID IT WOULD BE EASY..BUT THERE HAS TO BE SOMETHING POSITIVE..DAMNNNNNNN
@newmomisland, there are a TON of amazing things to talk about when it comes to our new babies, but there are also a lot of scary, stressful times too. I think a lot of us newer moms just wanted an open place to vent without being judged. My daughter is now 4 months old and I can say now that those first few weeks of despair were well worth the joy I feel now. It is VERY…different….when you first have a baby, especially your first. This is a great site to talk about all those feelings. I don’t know if you have any other children but you may eventually find some relief in these comment to know that other moms can relate to you.
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Someone should have told me about this site!
I also wish someone would have *really* told us how hard it is those first few weeks home. It’s not just about the sleep deprivation–which is all anyone really ever mentions. It’s about recovering from giving birth or having a C-section; it’s about crying through every nursing session because you are in pain that everyone tells you shouldn’t exist; it’s about feeling completely inept and wondering how anyone with a walking child survived the first weeks home; it’s about suddenly loving and caring for this strange baby so much that you are plagued with fear that something bad is going to happen; and yes, it’s about serious sleep deprivation. Lack of sleep, I can handle. Lack of sleep on top of all these other things, THIS is why it was so hard at first.
Of course, now that my son is nearly six weeks old I’m starting to forget how hard it was, so I’ll totally be guilty of NOT warning new parents in the future because I won’t remember!
I am only 13 and I need some tips about being a new mother and what to expect and all that other stuff.I also need some tips on how to tell my mother and what to do if she kicks me out of the house or something and me and the father of the baby are not together anymore BECAUSE od the baby!!Please help me!!!I REALLY need the help.
I forgot to ask about this…which is healthier not just for me but for the baby…Breastfeeding or Formula?!
I am only 5 months along but am so happy to have found this blog! I know all the great things to come…that’s one of the biggest reasons we decided to start this journey into parenthood. Its all the other stuff that scares me. Like i get that breastfeeding can be painful….but i cant imagine just how painful that pain will be. Some of the concerns others have posted, I have those too, and my baby isn’t even here yet! But I am thankful for this info because when those moments of feeling helpless creep in and I start feeling like I’m the most incompetent mother…I will know I am not alone, others have over come this, and I can too!
@Gaby, We’re totally here for you. Thanks for stopping by!
I had my 1st child 3 wks ago. I’m suffering from post pardum depression & very bad anxiety. I can’t eat & I’m losing weight & I can’t stop worrying. Has anyone experienced this? I feel like I’m truly going out of my mind. I feel this is preventing me from bonding with my child. Any advice would help. I feel like something is wrong with me.
@Michelle, If you’re concerned that it’s PPD, find someone in real life you can talk with. Not sure where to start? Ask your OB or midwife for referrals. Also Post Partum Progress is a terrific resource (http://www.postpartumprogress.com/six-things-the-6-stages-of-postpartum-depression) but I can’t stress enough the real-life connections. Best of luck!
@Michelle Call your ob ASAP! I ended up having what my dr. called “postpartum anxiety.” I wanted my newborn to be on a schedule because I’m such an organized person. That’s just not possible!
Her instructions were to have my husband take over bedtime. Because my baby was having trouble sleeping, she suggested starting a routine – bath, PJS, bottle, book – every night. She told me to go in my room when my husband was doing bedtime and turn on something that blocked out any crying. She gave me something to help me relax so I could get some sleep and be up for nighttime feedings. She made it clear that it wouldn’t be a routine prescription of course. She told us to do that for a week and see where we were. I don’t know your situation, but if you have someone that could help you get some sleep, it will make everything better! Obviously, if you are having other symptoms, be honest and tell your dr. The best thing to do is to get help, and they will also check up on you throughout! Remember, you will get through this, and the sleeplessness and anxiety will eventually be gone. It doesn’t seem like it now, but it does get easier. My baby boy is 1, and exactly a year ago, I was struggling with such a huge transition. My husband and I can’t believe how much progress we’ve made. 
@Katy
I really appreciate the comment you wrote back to me. I feel very alone. My husband doesn’t really understand. I hve contacted my doctor & I have been prescribed 2 different medicines which have not really helped. I have another appt. tomorrow in hopes to try something else. This is probably the hardest thing i can ever remember dealing with. I hate this feeling. I hope & pray I can get a handle on this. I never thought I would feel like this after having my baby. It’s a constant nervous uneasy feeling in my stomach & in my head. Every time the baby cries the feelings I feel get worse. I’m doing the best I can & I know this wont get better overnight so I keep telling myself it takes time but my gosh sometimes I don’t think Im going to get thru this.
@Michelle, I, too, really really hate the crying. It is terrible. It gets better.