Shopping List: What to Register For and Buy

by Heather

This is your basic “if I knew then what I know now” registry. We have lots of friends with buns in the oven and have asked ourselves what we would register for now, knowing what we didn’t know back then…

Also, once your shower is over and you’ve washed and folded all the mini clothes in fragrance-free detergent like Tide Free or Dreft, there are more things to buy (that no one is going to want to buy you) and many things that are great to get used. We’ve made notes of those, too.

Heather’s Top 5 Favorites:

  1. Amazing Miracle swaddle blanket - I cannot believe how dorky the name is, but I would buy two if doing it all over again. Don’t waste your time with imitations or anything with velcro. Trust me.
  2. Pumping bra - ok, maybe you don’t want this on your Registry, but the other infomercial-product I heartily recommend is the bizarro-looking hands free pumping bra. Don’t think about it, just get your mom or best friend to buy you one.
  3. Extra laundry basket - a new little person in the house generates more than his share of laundry. Buy one or two extras.
  4. Soft carrier - Some sort of hands-free carrier is a must have. Baby Bjorn was the easiest to use for us, but you might try some different slings too. If you go with Bjorn, make sure to get the one with back support.
  5. Bottle warmer - this little thing is completely optional, but we love ours and use it every day. It’s simple and great.

Whitney’s Top 5 Favorites:

  1. White noise - get a machine for $20 or download some free stuff for your Ipod. We like the Homedics Sound Spa. Julian sleeps with it every day and night and we take it everywhere we expect him to sleep. Don’t worry, when your baby is born, you’ll become a sleep nut, too.
  2. Pack and Play - can have many lives as a basinet, play-yard, baby office or jail, sleeping quarters for visiting babies…
  3. New Mom Pants - black athletic pants that would fit a 5 month pregnant woman to wear every day for the first two months
  4. Rearview mirror for car - Something like this will allow you to check out your rear facing baby while you drive. It’s more dangerous than eating, putting on lipstick, or talking on a cell phone, but you won’t be able to help yourself.
  5. Dresser with changing pad on top - Of course people have made do without such a thing for thousands of years, but I really like ours.

MUST HAVES

  • Car seat that can be used to carry baby around, such as Graco SnugRide (get new). Remember to have this properly installed before you go to the hospital to have that baby or they won’t let you take him or her home with you. Oops. Extra bases are handy (but not essential) if you have more than one car.
  • Stroller that can push around car seat - we prefer the barebones snap-n-go models such as Kolcraft or Graco for the first 5 months. Advantage is that they are light and fit easily into the car (this is great to borrow since it has such a short shelf life - thanks to Whit for lending me hers).
  • Breast Pump - If you’re going to be a nursing mama, you’ll want a breast pump of some sort. If you’re not planning to ever return to work or ever be away from the bambino for more than a few hours, get a manual Medela Harmony or mini electric (twice the price, but teeny and zippy). If that is your idea of crazy, then do yourself a favor and get the big kahuna full on electric double pump, Medela Pump In Style.

NICE TO HAVE

  • 3 big-enough receiving blankets (1 meter by 1 meter) or a piece of flannel fabric finished at the ends is perfect. The really soft blankets from Gap or other boutiques are nice for the stroller, but not sufficiently large (and are too stretchy) for swaddling.
  • Diaper Champ/Genie/Dekor - We picked Champ and have no complaints for the baby phase of life (toddler diapers are another story and cannot be made nice!); it’s easy and doesn’t require special bags. Some folks actually use regular old trash cans and take out the trash every day. Up to you.
  • Newborn sleep place - depending on your plan for sleeping, you might want a Moses basket, co-sleeper, or something else. If you want a Moses basket, don’t forget a sheet for it. We both just put the Pack and Play with the basinette insert right next to our beds for the first few weeks.
  • Pack and Play sheets - differently sized than crib sheets. Do the homework.
  • Swing, bouncy seat, both – great to borrow because padded parts are washable and some kids don’t really groove with some models. (I LOVE the Fisher Price side to side swing and would buy it USED again from the beginning)
  • Bathtub - We recommend either the Eurobath or the Sure Comfort - both are good for newborns to toddlers (my tall 3-year old is still in it!!!)- We bathe Holden on the kitchen counter to avoid bending and kneeling.
  • Diaper bag - You actually can use an oversized handbag or a backpack for the diapers and associated changes of clothes. But if you can’t resist this rite of passage, pick out a style you like and consider one for daddy. Consider features like whether it’s too girly, if it clips to your stroller, how heavy/ bulky, and how happy you’ll be carrying it when your baby weighs 18 pounds. Whitney likes her Skip Hop and I use little Pack-it cubes chucked under the stroller. It’s a totally individual choice.
  • Link-a-doos toy clips handy dandy loops that hold little toys onto the car seat, stroller, diaper bag or high chair. Sometimes, they’re also a favorite chew toy.
  • My Brest Friend nursing pillow - Love love this thing, you can buy new or borrow one and wash the cover. A Boppy is also pretty good and has a second life helping your baby with sitting and tummy time.
  • Baby monitor - groovy ones have lights that show you a baby’s distress as well as broadcast it, but the best feature is small and battery-operated so you can take it with you.
  • Crib - no problem to get used if it meets current safety standards or a great gift for your family with deep pockets
  • Mattress sold separately - get a good one
  • Crib Sheets - Whitney is fond of her babystyle sheets in t-shirt material. Get three.
  • Mobile for crib - One that moves and is interesting from the bottom (baby’s view)

TOTAL LUXURIES

  • Mobile for above the changing table - Give the kid something to look at and grab for aside from his privates
  • Extra changing pad - Again, a luxury. Some smart moms use this for a second changing station in the house; Julian got extra use out of his as a travelling bed for overnight trips during the first 3 months.
  • Changing pad covers - Remember to check the size and shape.
  • Fluffy bath towel – I love the one my friend Ella got for Holden by Swankie Blankie. Get something super soft with a hood that you would want to curl up in if you were teeny. Get 2.
  • Sun shades for car windows - the ones by First Years are wide. We both ended up tinting our windows, but you might try these first
  • Bottle drying rack - super useful, cheap-o thing to clutter your counter and keep all the bottle bits straight.
  • Cage for bottle bits and pacifiers - I have one of these nifty things for putting all the bits in the dishwasher which I do not yet own.
  • Fancy burp cloths from RatzerFratzer - a classy alternative to having a stack of plain cloth diapers in every room of the house
  • Bumper, dust ruffle - these are for looks mostly. There is a bumper debate, but Whitney will go on record as someone who kept it in the crib the whole time. I never used one. You decide.
  • Glider/Rocker - I love my hand-me-down glider and Whitney has a really nice new one. I think she would have rather gone on a weekend ski trip with the money it cost. I know some other styley people that have gotten other kinds of chairs in an attempt to have real-looking furniture.
  • Coordinating furniture or any other delightful pieces of baby room frivolity (lamp, valance, anyone?)

WHAT EVERYONE WANTS TO BUY YOU

  • Clothing - mostly you will be covered by gifts of clothing. Make sure to let friends know you are open to hand-me-downs. Babies grow out of newborn clothes so quickly, there’s no sense in owning tons of them. Register for things in all sizes up to 12 months. We won’t get too specific on clothes as it’s the easiest and most fun part. A few extra notes in case you’re a real rookie:
    • Stuff that doesn’t need to go over the baby’s head is really nice for the first few weeks
    • Multi-pack of onesies, long sleeved onesies are harder to find and you’ll blow through them (literally!) faster than you think.
    • Mini sweatpants that aren’t attached to anything and shirts that are not onesies in newborn size for the week that the umbilical cord still lives with your baby
    • Don’t forget socks and caps
  • Toys - little tiny stuffed animals, noise-making hoo-hahs, miniature playthings. Yep, the being inside of you will one day love toys. And your loved ones will have a blast with these too.

OTHER ESSENTIALS

Or stuff to have on hand so you’re not running out to the store for the first couple weeks when you should be resting and bonding.

Health and Hygiene

  • Nail clippers - The tiny nails of a newborn have to be trimmed more than once a week and it’s hard to guide those clippers. I recommend buying sharp nail scissors as well. Holden wore teeny mittens for the first 3 weeks of his life because we gave up on trimming the nails.
  • Digital thermometer - you will likely be obsessed with how warm or cold your newborn is. If you tend to be a keep-track-of-everything type mom, you may write it all down or even graph it.
  • Washcloths - I don’t think there’s anything special about baby washcloths
  • Burp cloths - A pack of cloth diapers will do, but better are the ones that are found in the car washing section of a store like Target. You’ll want a stack in every room for the first 6 months.
  • Baby Tylenol, Baby Orajel, Baby Mylicon, Gripe Water
  • Baby shampoo and bodywash
  • Diaper Rash Ointment, something zinc-based
  • Homeopathic teething tablets
  • Purell - I have little containers all over: diaper bag, near changing table, the car… hint hint hint.
  • Pacifiers - Just go ahead and get them and you can decide later if you want to use them. Get some clips/leashes to go with them.

Mama Wellness and Happiness

  • Huge maxi pads for the 5 week long period you’ll be having after the baby is born
  • Disposable breast pads
  • Nipple cream - Hope I’m not the first to tell you, my friend, there’s going to be some pain involved. I don’t think it helped, but I used it anyway: Lansinoh brand is the best known. I liked Motherlove better; you can find it at Whole Foods.
  • Beer - Guinness for me - celebrate and make more milk!
  • Bendy straws and gatorade

Duh… Diapers!

  • Newborn diapers - just one pack in case your baby is huge and outgrows ‘em right away!
  • Size one diapers - a big jumbo case cuz you’ll need ‘em eventually (I’m a Huggies fan if anyone cares)
  • Diapering service or Fuzzi Bunz - I use disposable, but if you’re going the other way, a few months of a diapering service is a great gift. I hear Tiny Tots is the best around here. Or pick an assortment of Fuzzi Bunz for the future. They’re a favorite among my mom’s group babies. I’ve also heard really good things about gDiapers, hybrid non-disposables with a flushable liner.
  • Diaper wipes - uber gentle for newborn skin… for the first month, I actually rinsed them of all chemicals before using. Whitney had on her list a Thermos for keeping water next to the changing table because she planned to use paper towels and water as instructed by the crunchy Berkeley hospital, but ended up being too lazy.
  • Diaper bag sized container of wipes - to refill with wipes

Oh yeah, Feeding the baby

  • Formula - even if you plan to nurse, have some of this on hand in case of emergency. We like Earth’s Best formula if you care.
  • Formula dispenser - this handy item is for feeding on the go; this one’s by Munchkin (can later be used for solid food)
  • Bottle brush
  • Avent bottles - 2 sizes (4 oz and 8 oz) with nipples in sizes 1, 2, 3 and some soft sippy cup lids

AMAZING SERVICES

Non-stuff Stuff that you would love to get but won’t want to ask for

  • Cooking - food of any kind. Home-delivered gourmet, something pre-made and frozen, or an account at your favorite takeout joint.
  • Cleaning - a cleaning service for a few weeks or months
  • Home Doula - mother’s helper, babysitter, night nurse are variations on the theme of someone to help you get the baby cared for
  • Massage - it may be a while before you feel comfortable going for one, but it’s so nice to have that gift certificate on the fridge as a reminder
  • Classes - Mommy and me, Gymboree, Mom’s Group… you may not have considered these kind of groups ever before in your life, but you soon will! Membership has its privileges.

FOR 6 MONTHS AND BEYOND

Your baby will eventually get older and drink from bottles, eat real food, crawl around, stand up, walk away, and speak in sentences. As long as your kind-hearted family and friends have their wallets out, you might want to ask for some future-oriented stuff too:

  • High chair or booster/ feeding chair
  • “Big boy” car seat - I like the Britax Marathon and wish they made one in my size
  • Stroller that works for the sitter-upper (and hopefully collapses easily and fits in your trunk)
  • Sign language books and dvd
  • Feeding bowls, spoons, bibs (that are easy to clean!)
  • Leapstart activity table
  • Jumperoo or Exersaucer entertainment pod

NEW VS. USED

Really, anything that doesn’t skeeve you out and passes current safety standards is ok to get as a hand-me-down. Whitney has hooked me up with lots of great toys and clothes and a snap-n-go stroller.

I got other nice things from the Berkeley Parents Network and Craig’s List. Once you know some of the bigger ticket items that you want, you can watch the lists for a couple weeks to see what comes up. Also, don’t be afraid to tap into your own new mom community. Ask around if folks are done with their carriers and swings. Odds are that they’ll want the gear to serve another family rather than sit in their attic.

I’m cool with yard sales for most things, but not these:

  • Car seat – new safety regulations have me spooked into getting new models. I love the Graco Snugride bucket seat and the Britex Marathon big boy seat
  • Crib mattres - possible links to SIDS might shame you into buying new. Then again, I got a used one for Holden (before knowing any better) and a cheap one for Milo.
  • Mechanical breastpump - the hand pumps are thoroughly washable… but not the electric. Ok, don’t tell anyone, but mine was a hand-me-down and the lady at the hospital told me to replace the tubing (which you should never try to clean btw) and I’d be fine.

So, maybe I just feel strongly about new car seats… that’s not so bad!
Updated by Heather on 4-Apr-2008