Comments on: Activity #102: Let her be (AKA Leave your baby alone) http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be/ Two geeky girls' guide to the first years of motherhood. Sun, 12 Feb 2012 06:42:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: UmmeAaiman http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be/comment-page-1/#comment-112006 UmmeAaiman Mon, 27 Jul 2009 20:12:26 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be#comment-112006 Up until now, I suffered great guilt trips that if I didn't spend ALL my time with Zahra (my 4 month old), it meant that I was neglecting her or putting my leisure ahead of spending quality time with her... and that it was my whole duty to make her play and I have to talk to her all the time!!! Up until now, I suffered great guilt trips that if I didn’t spend ALL my time with Zahra (my 4 month old), it meant that I was neglecting her or putting my leisure ahead of spending quality time with her… and that it was my whole duty to make her play and I have to talk to her all the time!!!

]]> By: Traci http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be/comment-page-1/#comment-30072 Traci Fri, 18 Jan 2008 20:42:53 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be#comment-30072 I cannot believe it but after googling for 20 mins this is the only advice I have found on leaving your little one alone for a period of time and whether or not its ok. I keep thinking this must be one of those major taboo subjects. My 8 month old is crawling everywhere and we live in a cabin that has so much wood, we could only get one room sanded down and sliver free so far- so my question was is it ok to put him in his room with his toys and books on the floor and everything non-baby gone- I have really gone to great lengths to make this room as fun and safe for him as possible. I don't mean for long periods of time, but I have a bread baking business and I would like to be able to take a break here and there to slice apples or do dishes etc... Any thoughts on this? So far every time I have put up the gate he goes straight up to it and cries pitifully until I can't take it. And I don't feel right just leaving him to cry, but I also know were not supposed to train them we'll come running every time they cry. Where's the middle ground? Thanks for being out there and reading this Mom's! I cannot believe it but after googling for 20 mins this is the only advice I have found on leaving your little one alone for a period of time and whether or not its ok. I keep thinking this must be one of those major taboo subjects. My 8 month old is crawling everywhere and we live in a cabin that has so much wood, we could only get one room sanded down and sliver free so far-
so my question was is it ok to put him in his room with his toys and books on the floor and everything non-baby gone- I have really gone to great lengths to make this room as fun and safe for him as possible. I don’t mean for long periods of time, but I have a bread baking business and I would like to be able to take a break here and there to slice apples or do dishes etc… Any thoughts on this? So far every time I have put up the gate he goes straight up to it and cries pitifully until I can’t take it. And I don’t feel right just leaving him to cry, but I also know were not supposed to train them we’ll come running every time they cry. Where’s the middle ground? Thanks for being out there and reading this Mom’s!

]]> By: Kim http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be/comment-page-1/#comment-20476 Kim Thu, 01 Nov 2007 13:33:20 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be#comment-20476 Yes, Elizabeth. I too am a first time mom and have had the same worries you have. I do believe that they are capable of letting us know when they need more. Remember, take advantage of these moments. They will go through clingy phases too. (such as when sick, teething, or just simply needy). Enjoy each phases and keep in mind that it will pass and return...good or bad. Also, it's good to have time to "miss" your baby. If you're busy cleaning away, your baby is perfectly fine alone, and you feel the need to cuddle...take that time. Look at it as a reward for both you and baby. Enjoy every moment! :) Yes, Elizabeth. I too am a first time mom and have had the same worries you have. I do believe that they are capable of letting us know when they need more. Remember, take advantage of these moments. They will go through clingy phases too. (such as when sick, teething, or just simply needy). Enjoy each phases and keep in mind that it will pass and return…good or bad. Also, it’s good to have time to “miss” your baby. If you’re busy cleaning away, your baby is perfectly fine alone, and you feel the need to cuddle…take that time. Look at it as a reward for both you and baby. Enjoy every moment! :)

]]> By: Elizabeth http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be/comment-page-1/#comment-19366 Elizabeth Mon, 22 Oct 2007 22:34:59 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be#comment-19366 So glad I found this!!! I have just put little Liam down in his crib to fold some laundry and do some surfing on the Internet when it happened...again. The overwhelming feeling of guilt that I perhaps leave him alone too much, whether it's in his pack-and-play, crib or jumpy seat. Liam is more than capable of entertaining himself for extended periods of time, but I can't help but worry I am not playing or stimulating him enough intellectually. Time to take a deep breath and know that he's more than able to let me know when he wants/needs me to do something, including a cuddle or play time, no? So glad I found this!!! I have just put little Liam down in his crib to fold some laundry and do some surfing on the Internet when it happened…again. The overwhelming feeling of guilt that I perhaps leave him alone too much, whether it’s in his pack-and-play, crib or jumpy seat. Liam is more than capable of entertaining himself for extended periods of time, but I can’t help but worry I am not playing or stimulating him enough intellectually. Time to take a deep breath and know that he’s more than able to let me know when he wants/needs me to do something, including a cuddle or play time, no?

]]> By: 1SmartMom.com » http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be/comment-page-1/#comment-629 1SmartMom.com » Sat, 26 Aug 2006 13:08:18 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be#comment-629 [...] I refer yet again to rookiemoms.com on this great thought for the day. So many times we think that we have to entertain babies every moment, they need stimulation constantly. Well, have you ever watched a baby stare at a ceiling fan for an hour? It is not hard for them to entertain or stimulate themselves. And it is ok to take a few moments for yourself while baby is content with herself. As rookiemom said herself, “…… a person blissfully staring into space does not need her mother to shake a rattle in her face”. Check out their blog on this subject at rookiemoms.com Participate! Leave your comment. [...] [...] I refer yet again to rookiemoms.com on this great thought for the day. So many times we think that we have to entertain babies every moment, they need stimulation constantly. Well, have you ever watched a baby stare at a ceiling fan for an hour? It is not hard for them to entertain or stimulate themselves. And it is ok to take a few moments for yourself while baby is content with herself. As rookiemom said herself, “…… a person blissfully staring into space does not need her mother to shake a rattle in her face”. Check out their blog on this subject at rookiemoms.com Participate! Leave your comment. [...]

]]> By: Angel http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be/comment-page-1/#comment-628 Angel Sat, 26 Aug 2006 12:53:08 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be#comment-628 Hi, I loved this tip. SO many do not realize that it is a good parent who teaches a child that he can entertain himself. There is a reason they call them "pack and PLAYS" ,because they are not just for sleeping. And I love this site altogether, definitely one I will refer to. I love that some of the other ideas (i.e. taking your child to look at the fire engine) are fun activities that are FREE! ~ Angel Cope 1smartmom.com Hi, I loved this tip. SO many do not realize that it is a good parent who teaches a child that he can entertain himself. There is a reason they call them “pack and PLAYS” ,because they are not just for sleeping.
And I love this site altogether, definitely one I will refer to. I love that some of the other ideas (i.e. taking your child to look at the fire engine) are fun activities that are FREE!
~ Angel Cope 1smartmom.com

]]> By: Lis. http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be/comment-page-1/#comment-566 Lis. Wed, 23 Aug 2006 19:59:34 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be#comment-566 For sanity's sake, I totally agree! For sanity’s sake, I totally agree!

]]> By: Holly Schwendiman http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be/comment-page-1/#comment-555 Holly Schwendiman Wed, 23 Aug 2006 15:59:13 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be#comment-555 Hey ladies, Just wanted to say GREAT job on what you've done and are doing here. I really wish this had been around when I was a first time mom! I shared that sentiment this morning at: http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2006/08/23/wish-id-had-this/ Here's hoping it drives some new moms your way!! Hugs, Holly Hey ladies,

Just wanted to say GREAT job on what you’ve done and are doing here. I really wish this had been around when I was a first time mom! I shared that sentiment this morning at: http://www.hollyscorner.com/blog/2006/08/23/wish-id-had-this/ Here’s hoping it drives some new moms your way!!

Hugs,
Holly

]]> By: Heather http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be/comment-page-1/#comment-552 Heather Wed, 23 Aug 2006 14:24:30 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be#comment-552 Yeah, we're definitely talking about a few minutes of safe time here and there... not like the couple that went out to play video games for a few hours. Yeah, we’re definitely talking about a few minutes of safe time here and there… not like the couple that went out to play video games for a few hours.

]]> By: Kelly http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be/comment-page-1/#comment-550 Kelly Wed, 23 Aug 2006 12:41:22 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/let-him-be#comment-550 What smart advice! I remember a friend telling me that she had not gotten a shower for days because she didn't think that she could leave her baby for long enough. We all need to remember that some (safe) alone time is a good thing for baby and for mom. What smart advice! I remember a friend telling me that she had not gotten a shower for days because she didn’t think that she could leave her baby for long enough. We all need to remember that some (safe) alone time is a good thing for baby and for mom.

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