If you’re bored, then you’re boring

by Whitney on January 6, 2010

in Free/Cheap,Link love,Mommy

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Just when I’ve run out of ways to say, “Don’t just read this website, DO some of the activities!” I read Meagan Francis’s post about how motherhood doesn’t have to be boring, although it is admittedly filled with boring moments.

She urges her community to take action, to take responsibility for their own happiness. I asked her if I could share her tips here and she was pleased to be able to boss you around.

By the way, Meagan is the author of Table for Eight: Raising a Large Family in a Small-Family World. She’s got five children.

Here are five things she suggests:

Choose challenging media.
Yes, with hundreds of cable channels offering countless reality shows and celebrity scandal recaps and thousands of blogs (some great, some good, some…well, not) it’s easy to get lost in choices and just stick with what’s easy. There’s something to be said for brain candy, but just like real candy, if it’s all you consume you’ll get bloated and squishy. The good news is, you’ve got a lot of great options at your fingertips. If you’re looking for drama and romance, try the History channel. Join a virtual book club or read literary blogs. Subscribe to a newspaper or weighty magazine and force yourself to sit down and read an entire article without getting up to check your email or Tweet.

Take Action.
Instead of mindlessly watching the Food Network for hours a day (guilty!) try buying those exotic ingredients and-gasp!-making something with them. Or if you’ve been zoning out on home-improvement shows, actually hammer a nail into a piece of wood or slap some finish on a piece of furniture. Shake things up. Don’t just passively watch or read–try doing.

Check in with a daily source of inspiration.
I’ve been following the blog Mental Multivitamin for years because her “Hey, you: do something with your brain already” attitude is a nice no-nonsense kick in the pants, and her blog offers a lot of jumping-off points and inspiring ideas.

Learn something new.
Brains get dull when they re-use the same old circuitry over and over. Working to master a new skill or learning new information literally re-wires your brain, creating new connections and making you smarter. So maybe you don’t have the time or funds to take guitar lessons right now–you’ve still got options. Check youtube for free tutorials, subscribe to a magazine, or join a group for enthusiasts. Even if you can’t jump in with both feet, you’ll learn something by osmosis.

Develop Discipline.
Don’t have time to write, or paint, or do yoga, or practice the piano? Baloney. Look how much time you just spent reading this! Hey, part of happy motherhood is learning how to work with the five- or ten-minute blocks of time you’re granted throughout the day. If you wait around for eight undisturbed hours a day to fall into your lap before you can start working on that novel, you’ll be waiting a long time. Look at it this way: a year is going to go by whether you exercise, or write, or draw, or start your business, or don’t. You may as well devote every bit of time you can to the things that really matter to you. Yes, your kids are a big part of that, but they don’t have to be–and really shouldn’t be–the entire enchilada.

Are you inspired? What are you going to do now?

a d v e r t i s e m e n t

{ 12 comments… read them below or add one }

April January 6, 2010 at 7:59 am

Thats EXACTLY what my mother’s motto was when I was growing up! I’ve passed it along to my kids too… Thanks for the post!

Ashley Colagross January 6, 2010 at 8:23 am

Thank you for the morning inspiration! I love this blog. It keeps me sane! My daughter is 5 months old and I’ve enjoyed several of your activities for the very wee ones.

Ma January 6, 2010 at 4:51 pm

I leave in fear of the boring moments, so I try to get as much activities packed in a day as possible, but like today I did a million things with the kids, I’m totally cool with just vegging out on the couch and watching tv with them.

RookieMom Heather January 6, 2010 at 9:55 pm

Ashley, that’s so nice to hear. We started this site when my son was five months old. To help get me out of the house and keep me inspired.

Jen January 6, 2010 at 10:51 pm

I totally agree with the idea that motherhood doesn’t have to be boring. Since my 10 month old was born I’ve taken part in a once a month book group and started a local online arts and entertainment magazine/website. It’s helped keep my brain from too much mushiness.. and I as a mostly SAHM I still enjoy the daily fun of watching my wee one grow.

Whenever I’ve gotten stuck in the baby blues and decide that I can’t do something (or go somewhere) because it would be “too hard”, I remember that others have it way harder and I am privileged. Then I get off my bottom and do something.

Kristin January 7, 2010 at 1:56 am

I have recently rediscovered puzzle books – like you find at the drug store for a couple bucks. Whenever I have some time, which granted is only about 20 minutes a day, I sit down and work on a puzzle. It keeps me from feeling like my brain is rotting. Don’t get me wrong… I LOVE spending time with my kiddo – but these types of activities, and others you suggest, help me remember that I am more than a mom and housekeeper.

Kelly January 8, 2010 at 6:58 am

My favorite RookieMoms post of all time (well, since I subscribed a year-plus ago)! Thank you!

Lauren January 8, 2010 at 12:29 pm

Wow, such great advice! My daughter is 8 weeks old and I struggle to find creative things to do with her (which is hard when she’s not even at the point of holding her head up or doing anything with purpose!) plus finding things to do with myself, other than mindlessly surfing the internet or watching HGTV! This post is really inspiring.

Elizabeth January 12, 2010 at 8:19 am

Great post! When I was in elementary school I used to help a college professor teach other elementary school students Spanish. He was the first person to tell me two things that have stuck with me: 1) Saying “whatever” means you don’t care to learn, and 2) Being bored means you’re a boring person. Ever since then I’ve tried to keep my brain and body active (which is how I found this blog! Yay Karma :-) Thanks for the reminder and for getting the word out to other mamas :-)

Sarah January 12, 2010 at 1:55 pm

I just found this blog and am so excited to read more. I love this post as it helps to motivate me. My baby is 6 weeks old and I am struggling with time right now.I am taking some online courses as I love to learn and am considering becoming a CPA. I really want to find work that will allow me to have a flexible schedule and work from him, so I am hoping this will help. I am also trying to make new friends that have young children as well, but am not having much luck at this point. I think this blog will help me to find things that I can do on my own with my child.

Elizabeth January 13, 2010 at 9:13 am

Sarah, you’ve come to the right place. I found this blog in late 2008 and these girls rock! Seriously.

M Mehrizi June 14, 2011 at 9:33 am

When I was in the seventh grade my teacher had this on her chalk board. “If you’re bored, then you’re boring” Awe the memories.

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