Comments on: Do you need a victory baby?

By: Thrush and what to do about it

Thrush and what to do about it — Fri, 17 Aug 2012 04:53:02 +0000

[...] hate to end my illustrious and productive nursing career on a low note but I am not planning a victory baby to make up for it. If this is how it will go down — in flames, so to speak — then so be [...]

By: Victory baby « The Barreness's Blog

Victory baby « The Barreness's Blog — Fri, 11 Nov 2011 06:51:10 +0000

[...] read this post, Do you need a victory baby? over on Rookie Moms, and it struck a bit of a chord for me. For instance, I remember last time [...]

By: Realistic Expectations and Victory Babies | On Becoming a Domestic and Laboratory Goddess

Sun, 21 Aug 2011 22:00:50 +0000

[...] such things. Yesterday they were all discussing a post from some mommy bloggers called “Do you need a victory baby?” Another blogger discusses the concept of the victory baby thusly: A victory baby, for those [...]

By: Heather

Heather — Thu, 18 Aug 2011 04:44:44 +0000

We always planned on four, so there’s no ‘victory baby’ for us–only plans to fix things that didn’t work out with the last. After my first, it was a VBAC.

This time, with my third, I actually conceived on the first try, no need for help (which I didn’t expect, nor set as any goal, we just were going to have fun trying without falling into the whole TTC world yet and boom!), but my goal is to have the natural birth I always wanted and have tried twice for.

We have two girls and another girl on the way. I joke that we’ll have a cute set of four at the end (partly to remind myself that it’s okay I didn’t get the son I always wanted, because these girls ARE awesome). If I have a boy, that would be great, but so would a girl. But none of our children weren’t planned from the beginning.

By: Julidette Paige

Julidette Paige — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 18:31:43 +0000

Great post! I needed it. Preggers w #3 and all were birthcontrol conceived (one pill baby, one withdrawl, one IUD). WTH?! I’m having the 3rd “oops” and I still have dreams of one day planning a pregnancy. I need to get over that. Thanks for putting words to my potential future issue!

By: Nicole

Nicole — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 17:45:26 +0000

Victory, in a different way than others mention here – after an abortion 7 years earlier which I regretted deeply immediately afterwards and still do, I had my dream-baby 2.5 years ago, just before I turned 40. I always wanted to make up for making the wrong choice the first time around and I know for sure this little girl was meant to be with me. She is healthy and fabulous, and I believe I appreciate her all the more because if the circumstances. Note, I’m not questionning the right to choose, it just wasn’t the right thing for me then.

By: Homebirth derailed: Jennifer walked to the hospital

Homebirth derailed: Jennifer walked to the hospital — Wed, 17 Aug 2011 13:20:50 +0000

[...] Now she is a happy 14 month old. She is developmentally right on target, and tracks the bottom of the curve for height and weight. For a variety of reasons, we are not attempting a victory baby. [...]

By: Arrival

Arrival — Tue, 28 Jun 2011 17:27:36 +0000

[...] M’s arrival was one fraught with drama, pain, and ultimately great joy. When people used to ask if we were going to have more kids, before we had totally decided, I used to tell them no. M nearly killed me, so I wasn’t going to risk it again. For the record, I blame M for none of that drama. It was simply my body’s reaction to pregnancy. This time I attempted to weight the dice in my favor, being more active, more fit, from the start. This time, I got my victory delivery. [...]

By: Sarah H

Sarah H — Fri, 22 Apr 2011 12:00:06 +0000

I’m currently pregnant with my rainbow / victory baby. My goal: He’s delivered alive and lives. My first son was stillborn last March and so my goals are smaller, more realistic. Do I want a home birth and no meds and a long breastfeeding relationship? Absolutely. But I want a baby that enters the world hollering instead of silent, and to me that will be the first victory.

Our experiences shape our view of life. I think wanting a different experience the second (third, fourth etc) time around is pretty normal.

By: Emily

Emily — Sun, 17 Apr 2011 03:12:14 +0000

you know, Marie, I hope you get everything to happen just the way that you want it to.

By: Marie

Marie — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 16:22:41 +0000

I’m reading this while expecting our first—and only—baby, so this whole concept seems as foreign as it does entertaining. There’s something really comforting to me personally in knowing that this is the only time I will experience something; I think it allows me to enjoy the process more and not fixate on ‘needing’ a do-over at some point. It seems to be that having a victory baby is much more about fulfilling the mother’s expectations, rather than thinking of the child first. And if your second is a victory, then what in the world does that make your first? No pressure there, kiddo!

By: Only Children vs. Victory Babies « Two Nerds and a Baby

Only Children vs. Victory Babies « Two Nerds and a Baby — Fri, 15 Apr 2011 16:17:25 +0000

[...] I loved this thought-provoking post as well as its wide and varied comments from the Rookie Moms archive: “Do you need a victory baby?” [...]