Comments on: Activity #318: Deal with your in-laws http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/ Two geeky girls' guide to the first years of motherhood. Mon, 13 Feb 2012 00:35:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: AMEY http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-142693 AMEY Mon, 17 Oct 2011 07:37:26 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-142693 I am tired of my mil. She always complain about on thing or the other. If i gained a weight a little after delivery, she used such harsh words. She finds faults in me in one way or the other. Now she has started having problem with my appearance and face, i feel tired of her. I hate her, she says i have a big face and pointed chin which is not asthetic and so do my daughter. I somebody give her some wisdom. I am tired of my mil. She always complain about on thing or the other. If i gained a weight a little after delivery, she used such harsh words. She finds faults in me in one way or the other. Now she has started having problem with my appearance and face, i feel tired of her. I hate her, she says i have a big face and pointed chin which is not asthetic and so do my daughter. I somebody give her some wisdom.

]]> By: megabitch http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-133005 megabitch Wed, 22 Dec 2010 05:17:00 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-133005 hummhh....well I have just read my life for the last 20 something years....I have now become the bitch and I dont care, I despise all of them, have for many moons they are the most lying backstabbing bunch of BITCHES i have ever met, but Revenge can be sweet,yeap dh finally saw the light one Christmas Eve, as our child was given an old lady scarf , hat and glove set while her cousins were given violins, lessons, and talking globes. and HE said we wont go back, I have held him to that and Fucked up their nice little family get togeather for several years now...sometimes revenge takes time but is well worth it... hummhh….well I have just read my life for the last 20 something years….I have now become the bitch and I dont care, I despise all of them, have for many moons they are the most lying backstabbing bunch of BITCHES i have ever met, but Revenge can be sweet,yeap dh finally saw the light one Christmas Eve, as our child was given an old lady scarf , hat and glove set while her cousins were given violins, lessons, and talking globes. and HE said we wont go back, I have held him to that and Fucked up their nice little family get togeather for several years now…sometimes revenge takes time but is well worth it…

]]> By: Marilyn http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-132623 Marilyn Fri, 10 Dec 2010 00:43:09 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-132623 I have a terrible witch as a mother in law. I am so sick of having to put up with her stupid coments. The first time I went to visit my h family in Wisconsin she yelled at me and snatched a book away from my 9 month old baby because she thought he was going to ripe the cover!!! We were visiting my h grandmothers house and he couldnt touch a thing...... what else was he suppose to play with. I wanted to slap her right there and then. But i kept my cool.My h never says anything to defend me, it was the most unpleasent trip ever! Her house is a disgusting disaster , there was dog and cat hair EVERYWHERE !!!She didnt even bother to clean the room we were staying in , that had animal hair all over the sheets and blankets. She also mentioned that when my h was a baby she had to wake up at 4am because her husbad had to go hunting, well not me when my h went hunting and woke the baby at 4am i told him to put him back to sleep, I had done all the packing , had about 2 hours of sleep and had been the one taking care of the baby and putting him down to sleep while he had the time of his life, I was exhausted!! She was so mad that i did that. She is also a luthern ... I have nothing against being luthern but im non denominational, she was not happy that our son didnt get babtised in her church, 7 days after i had my baby she made me get up and go to church with her early in the morning knowing I wasnt luthern. Well last night i read an email she had sent trying to give us advise on our relationship and also said that my son needs to be taught bounderies and that he will never learn to behave if he isnt tought... She has seen him only 3 times and we live so far apart how dare she tell me that , just because i dont agree with spanking my kid . I am so sick and tiard of my h family. I have to put up with racist remarks from one of his sisters not to mention her recording me while me and my h were arguing in OUR home, the other sister giving my h cards with naked women on it . His dad telling me he needs a spanking because he was fussy at a resturant ( because he was teething and had no nap) I told my h about this but he doesnt think its a big deal and wont say a thing! But I have to deal with it and i dont want to i am ready to explode!!!!!!!!!!! I have a terrible witch as a mother in law. I am so sick of having to put up with her stupid coments. The first time I went to visit my h family in Wisconsin she yelled at me and snatched a book away from my 9 month old baby because she thought he was going to ripe the cover!!! We were visiting my h grandmothers house and he couldnt touch a thing…… what else was he suppose to play with. I wanted to slap her right there and then. But i kept my cool.My h never says anything to defend me, it was the most unpleasent trip ever! Her house is a disgusting disaster , there was dog and cat hair EVERYWHERE !!!She didnt even bother to clean the room we were staying in , that had animal hair all over the sheets and blankets. She also mentioned that when my h was a baby she had to wake up at 4am because her husbad had to go hunting, well not me when my h went hunting and woke the baby at 4am i told him to put him back to sleep, I had done all the packing , had about 2 hours of sleep and had been the one taking care of the baby and putting him down to sleep while he had the time of his life, I was exhausted!! She was so mad that i did that. She is also a luthern … I have nothing against being luthern but im non denominational, she was not happy that our son didnt get babtised in her church, 7 days after i had my baby she made me get up and go to church with her early in the morning knowing I wasnt luthern.
Well last night i read an email she had sent trying to give us advise on our relationship and also said that my son needs to be taught bounderies and that he will never learn to behave if he isnt tought… She has seen him only 3 times and we live so far apart how dare she tell me that , just because i dont agree with spanking my kid . I am so sick and tiard of my h family. I have to put up with racist remarks from one of his sisters not to mention her recording me while me and my h were arguing in OUR home, the other sister giving my h cards with naked women on it . His dad telling me he needs a spanking because he was fussy at a resturant ( because he was teething and had no nap) I told my h about this but he doesnt think its a big deal and wont say a thing! But I have to deal with it and i dont want to i am ready to explode!!!!!!!!!!!

]]> By: frankie http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-131622 frankie Mon, 22 Nov 2010 04:02:07 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-131622 Where do i start, unlike alot of comments, i have only been with him 5 years. But his family are nightmares and last night it all came to a head. For the first 3 yrs, his MIL and FIL would slag me off constantly to their friends and anyone who would listen, and be nice as pie to my face. Then 2 yrs ago, my BIL (who isnt too bad) got a gf and we get on really well, and after chatting realised they would bitch about each other to the other, and yet be nice as pie? This is slightly annoying, but the rest is worse. They make things hard for anyone who doesn't bend over backwards for them. My FIL cannot be trusted with money, has broken into our bedroom (when we stayed for a little while) to steal clothes and alcohol, he HAS to get drunk, and when he does kicks off, shouting and being abusive at the least, at the worse, he assaulted my bf, biting, scratching and hitting him, and broke his own foot by kicking walls. and yet everyone in the family says, oh its only becuase he was drunk, like it is an excuse. Wouldn't be so bad, but everytime it kicks off (on a weekly basis) we get a call to sort it out? He lies and cheats everyone for money, he tried to lie to my bf to get our money, stole of my BIL and went to my bfs grandad (who he hates, slags off and doesnt see) with a forged letter to say his wife would go to prision unless he could pay a £650 bill, took the moeny and spent it on drink and gambling. Have tried to help him but NOTHING works. Then the MIL, well she lies and cheats, slags off her own children, and always bilittles them. Doesnt pay her mortgage, instead gambles the money, and complains she cant pay? Once, when our car went wrong gave us £50, which i repeatedly said we didnt need, and she should keep, would not take back, so we took his BIL and partner and children out, as they had been having a hard time, and their response was why didnt they pay for us? Well the SIL is a class a witch. She has no respect for anyone, treats everyone like dog poo, only ever rings to ask for something, (over the last 3 yrs, has never once rang or txt to say how are you, only can you do xyz for me) Any money she owes, she 'cant afford' Yet can afford to go out drinking all the time. Now last night everything got worse, SIL found out 6 mnths ago she cant have children, and attacks my nephews, saying they shoudlnt be here, etc. And that all of us who have children are selfish etc... and MIL and FIL says what she said was perfectly ok! Nothing wrong with it, were the wrongs ones! After 5 years of venting at my mother, she spoke to SIL and said was discraceful at saying that, and nope shes in the wrong too. The issue is my partner who is 100% the best person ever, always bends over backwards for his family (although i hate it, its why i love him) is saying although what his sister said was wrong, its his sister so he will be fine with everyone. Yet my mother is out of order??!> I just hate this situation. and dont know what to do anymore? Where do i start, unlike alot of comments, i have only been with him 5 years. But his family are nightmares and last night it all came to a head. For the first 3 yrs, his MIL and FIL would slag me off constantly to their friends and anyone who would listen, and be nice as pie to my face. Then 2 yrs ago, my BIL (who isnt too bad) got a gf and we get on really well, and after chatting realised they would bitch about each other to the other, and yet be nice as pie? This is slightly annoying, but the rest is worse. They make things hard for anyone who doesn’t bend over backwards for them. My FIL cannot be trusted with money, has broken into our bedroom (when we stayed for a little while) to steal clothes and alcohol, he HAS to get drunk, and when he does kicks off, shouting and being abusive at the least, at the worse, he assaulted my bf, biting, scratching and hitting him, and broke his own foot by kicking walls. and yet everyone in the family says, oh its only becuase he was drunk, like it is an excuse. Wouldn’t be so bad, but everytime it kicks off (on a weekly basis) we get a call to sort it out? He lies and cheats everyone for money, he tried to lie to my bf to get our money, stole of my BIL and went to my bfs grandad (who he hates, slags off and doesnt see) with a forged letter to say his wife would go to prision unless he could pay a £650 bill, took the moeny and spent it on drink and gambling. Have tried to help him but NOTHING works. Then the MIL, well she lies and cheats, slags off her own children, and always bilittles them. Doesnt pay her mortgage, instead gambles the money, and complains she cant pay? Once, when our car went wrong gave us £50, which i repeatedly said we didnt need, and she should keep, would not take back, so we took his BIL and partner and children out, as they had been having a hard time, and their response was why didnt they pay for us? Well the SIL is a class a witch. She has no respect for anyone, treats everyone like dog poo, only ever rings to ask for something, (over the last 3 yrs, has never once rang or txt to say how are you, only can you do xyz for me) Any money she owes, she ‘cant afford’ Yet can afford to go out drinking all the time. Now last night everything got worse, SIL found out 6 mnths ago she cant have children, and attacks my nephews, saying they shoudlnt be here, etc. And that all of us who have children are selfish etc… and MIL and FIL says what she said was perfectly ok! Nothing wrong with it, were the wrongs ones! After 5 years of venting at my mother, she spoke to SIL and said was discraceful at saying that, and nope shes in the wrong too.

The issue is my partner who is 100% the best person ever, always bends over backwards for his family (although i hate it, its why i love him) is saying although what his sister said was wrong, its his sister so he will be fine with everyone. Yet my mother is out of order??!> I just hate this situation. and dont know what to do anymore?

]]> By: amy http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-130764 amy Sat, 16 Oct 2010 20:18:50 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-130764 ok girls. I have 3 sister in laws and they are all sisters as well. HELP ME!!We all have children around the same age they all have girls I have biys and one baby girl my kids are left out of alot of things because they are boys. Walks, parties, playdates etc.... they all talk about each other and each others kids badly so I know they are doing the same to me. They have started numerous fights with me. They last big one was when my mother in laws mother (who live in our apartment building was started to get forgetful and dangerous to live alone) I would go check on her and I would be disgusted at how dirty her apartment was and my in laws knew it but did nothing. finally I snapped when I went over the grandmothers and there were mice everywhere and droppings on her table ,furniture the mice were living in her apartment because it was so dirty and noone wanted to help her clean it up because she gave my mom in law a hard time. So they just ignored the problem. We hire some one to get rid of the mice but the man told me that the place needed to be cleaned or they would be back. Of course my husband and I had to pay for this because it is our apartment building but I think my inlaws should have paid because it was because of their neglect that it got that bad. WOW that does feel good to get that out there!! Thanks ok girls. I have 3 sister in laws and they are all sisters as well. HELP ME!!We all have children around the same age they all have girls I have biys and one baby girl my kids are left out of alot of things because they are boys. Walks, parties, playdates etc…. they all talk about each other and each others kids badly so I know they are doing the same to me. They have started numerous fights with me. They last big one was when my mother in laws mother (who live in our apartment building was started to get forgetful and dangerous to live alone) I would go check on her and I would be disgusted at how dirty her apartment was and my in laws knew it but did nothing. finally I snapped when I went over the grandmothers and there were mice everywhere and droppings on her table ,furniture the mice were living in her apartment because it was so dirty and noone wanted to help her clean it up because she gave my mom in law a hard time. So they just ignored the problem. We hire some one to get rid of the mice but the man told me that the place needed to be cleaned or they would be back. Of course my husband and I had to pay for this because it is our apartment building but I think my inlaws should have paid because it was because of their neglect that it got that bad. WOW that does feel good to get that out there!! Thanks

]]> By: Pretty Face http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-130699 Pretty Face Mon, 11 Oct 2010 20:44:36 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-130699 I NEED YOUR HELP Annoying MIL FIL SIL No matter how nice I treat them, they still say good things only about my SIL. They never appreciate anything that I do. SIL is earning whereas I am not. Can this be the reason? FIL complains about my body weight, and says I look ugly in some dresses. What kind of old man is he to look at my body and say so? I cried a lot and complained to my hubby. He cannot say a thing to FIL, which I hate. I have told him to mention it once FIL complains again. MIL is equally annoying with angry face all the time. SIL thinks she is the prettiest woman and complains about everything I do in a very innocent way. She is a bitch! She lets me do most of the work and pretend she did it. So gets the credit of most of the work. I cry and try to meditate but these things don't work. Please help me with some advices to avoid these evil spirits around me. I NEED YOUR HELP

Annoying MIL FIL SIL

No matter how nice I treat them, they still say good things only about my SIL. They never appreciate anything that I do. SIL is earning whereas I am not. Can this be the reason?
FIL complains about my body weight, and says I look ugly in some dresses. What kind of old man is he to look at my body and say so? I cried a lot and complained to my hubby. He cannot say a thing to FIL, which I hate. I have told him to mention it once FIL complains again.
MIL is equally annoying with angry face all the time. SIL thinks she is the prettiest woman and complains about everything I do in a very innocent way. She is a bitch! She lets me do most of the work and pretend she did it. So gets the credit of most of the work.
I cry and try to meditate but these things don’t work. Please help me with some advices to avoid these evil spirits around me.

]]> By: Lisa http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-128179 Lisa Mon, 12 Apr 2010 15:19:26 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-128179 I took the low road a couple of times, my hubby is deployed so I don't have my best friend here (nor to I want to bother him with crap he can't help) to listen to my venting. I get terrible emails from my SIL and MIL. My MIL emails lies about my to my hubby. My SIL sends me nasty texts telling me that she has written me a message on Facebook and when I ignore the message she sends it to my work email. My MIL posts hurtful statuses on her Facebook page about me (thinking I can't see them, but my hubby can). I think I blogged because I was about to burst being I've been trying to take the high road (most of the time) by being tight lipped about all of our issues. I think if ALL emails and Facebook statuses were public, like blogs, I wouldn't be getting hateful things sent to me. I would LOVE to post some of those letters and texts, but it's not worth the energy or the backlash when they finally find where my new blog site is. I took the low road a couple of times, my hubby is deployed so I don’t have my best friend here (nor to I want to bother him with crap he can’t help) to listen to my venting. I get terrible emails from my SIL and MIL. My MIL emails lies about my to my hubby. My SIL sends me nasty texts telling me that she has written me a message on Facebook and when I ignore the message she sends it to my work email. My MIL posts hurtful statuses on her Facebook page about me (thinking I can’t see them, but my hubby can). I think I blogged because I was about to burst being I’ve been trying to take the high road (most of the time) by being tight lipped about all of our issues. I think if ALL emails and Facebook statuses were public, like blogs, I wouldn’t be getting hateful things sent to me. I would LOVE to post some of those letters and texts, but it’s not worth the energy or the backlash when they finally find where my new blog site is.

]]> By: suz http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-127975 suz Mon, 22 Mar 2010 02:43:30 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-127975 My in-laws favor my brother-in-law and sister-in-law over my husband. It drives me crazy and I feel so bad for my husband, who deals with it much better than me. Whenever they are at my house altogether it drains me so much. This weekend, my son's 9th birthday revolved around their other grandchildren, his younger cousins. My husband is such a great guy, paid for his own college, 4.0 student in engineering and they treat him like the black sheep in the family. I will never understand this! They gave his younger siblings money for college. My fil said to him when he graduated with a 4.0 "You know I would have paid for your college if you put effort in school." He mortgaged his house for the other two to go to school. They have always been hard and strict with him and more lenient with his younger siblings. His brother is the golden boy and his sister the princess. I have such a hard time dealing with this favoritism that spending any time with my in-laws exhausts me. I try not to let it interfere with my relationships with his brother and sister but they are aware. They are also close siblings and my husband is left out. My brother in law lives in the same city as us and it has happened before that his parents, brother's family and sister's family get together and do not invite us along. Since I have found this cite I have the feeling I will be posting often as so much has happened over the last 20 years of my marriage that is unfair and other than my friends have no one to share my frustrations with. My in-laws favor my brother-in-law and sister-in-law over my husband. It drives me crazy and I feel so bad for my husband, who deals with it much better than me. Whenever they are at my house altogether it drains me so much. This weekend, my son’s 9th birthday revolved around their other grandchildren, his younger cousins. My husband is such a great guy, paid for his own college, 4.0 student in engineering and they treat him like the black sheep in the family. I will never understand this! They gave his younger siblings money for college. My fil said to him when he graduated with a 4.0 “You know I would have paid for your college if you put effort in school.” He mortgaged his house for the other two to go to school. They have always been hard and strict with him and more lenient with his younger siblings. His brother is the golden boy and his sister the princess. I have such a hard time dealing with this favoritism that spending any time with my in-laws exhausts me. I try not to let it interfere with my relationships with his brother and sister but they are aware. They are also close siblings and my husband is left out. My brother in law lives in the same city as us and it has happened before that his parents, brother’s family and sister’s family get together and do not invite us along. Since I have found this cite I have the feeling I will be posting often as so much has happened over the last 20 years of my marriage that is unfair and other than my friends have no one to share my frustrations with.

]]> By: Grace http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-126152 Grace Tue, 01 Dec 2009 09:11:13 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-126152 Thankfully I can get along with my MIL, but my FIL I absolutely detest!!! I'm in my first trimester with my frist pregnancy. My husband and I decided to tell our parents early but asked them to wait until I had passed my first trimester to tell the news to everyone else. I find out on Thanksgiving Day that my FIL told of all people, my husband's best friend. I'm so angry at him for not only disrespecting our wishes, but for also taking away that moment from my husband to be able to tell his friend about OUR news. This was the straw that broke the camels back! In the past I could barely tolerate him, but now I can no longer hide how much I hate him. He is bipolar and diabetic but chooses not to take his medication nor follow doctors advice, yet expects my MIL to still take care of his every whim and need- even in the midst of her battle with cancer. He belittles my husband in front of me and my family or whoever is within earshot to hear his rambling. He tells my MIL to "shut up" when he doesn't want to hear anymore of what she has to say. And when he gambles away their fixed allowance, and she confronts him about it -he reverts back into his "non-speaking phase", blaming it on his bipolar disorder. (Which by his doctors standards, can be controlled if he took his medications.) I used to keep quiet about it for the sake of peace with my husband and his family, but now with a new baby on the way and with the fear of exposing my baby to this dysfunctional and disrespectful man, my tolerance level with FIL is down to ZERO!!! ERRRRR!!!!! Thankfully I can get along with my MIL, but my FIL I absolutely detest!!! I’m in my first trimester with my frist pregnancy. My husband and I decided to tell our parents early but asked them to wait until I had passed my first trimester to tell the news to everyone else. I find out on Thanksgiving Day that my FIL told of all people, my husband’s best friend. I’m so angry at him for not only disrespecting our wishes, but for also taking away that moment from my husband to be able to tell his friend about OUR news.
This was the straw that broke the camels back! In the past I could barely tolerate him, but now I can no longer hide how much I hate him. He is bipolar and diabetic but chooses not to take his medication nor follow doctors advice, yet expects my MIL to still take care of his every whim and need- even in the midst of her battle with cancer.
He belittles my husband in front of me and my family or whoever is within earshot to hear his rambling. He tells my MIL to “shut up” when he doesn’t want to hear anymore of what she has to say. And when he gambles away their fixed allowance, and she confronts him about it -he reverts back into his “non-speaking phase”, blaming it on his bipolar disorder. (Which by his doctors standards, can be controlled if he took his medications.)
I used to keep quiet about it for the sake of peace with my husband and his family, but now with a new baby on the way and with the fear of exposing my baby to this dysfunctional and disrespectful man, my tolerance level with FIL is down to ZERO!!! ERRRRR!!!!!

]]> By: Catherine http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-122958 Catherine Thu, 15 Oct 2009 05:10:49 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-122958 I've had so much grief from my MIL and suffered so much that I have been reduced to har-harring at such trash and crudity as the forum listed below provides: http://www.voy.com/221045/ Since I can't talk to my family and lack the guts to complain, I live vicariously through such ilk. My MIL has lied to me, abused me, belittled me and stolen from me, yet somehow she still manages to convince everyone that she is the poor, pitiful victim. I'm so amazed at her ability to do this that I can't even mobilize my defenses to effectively stand up to her. How sad is that? I’ve had so much grief from my MIL and suffered so much that I have been reduced to har-harring at such trash and crudity as the forum listed below provides:

http://www.voy.com/221045/

Since I can’t talk to my family and lack the guts to complain, I live vicariously through such ilk.

My MIL has lied to me, abused me, belittled me and stolen from me, yet somehow she still manages to convince everyone that she is the poor, pitiful victim. I’m so amazed at her ability to do this that I can’t even mobilize my defenses to effectively stand up to her. How sad is that?

]]> By: Lisa http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-106248 Lisa Mon, 29 Jun 2009 19:39:50 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-106248 Glad to hear I'm not the only one with in-law issues!!! My issues are with my brother-in-law and his wife. They are 2 of a kind...selfish, scheming and untrustworthy! Over the years I have biten my tongue too many times to count but my patience with their nonsense is running out. I hate having to spend any time with them, and avoid them whenever possible. My mother-in-law is great, but when it comes to them they can do no wrong...it is kind of scary because my MIL is not well, and they seem to be trying to take advantage of her and her sickened condition. They would screw family over for a penny. My husband is great, but like his mother, he may be too nice for his own good. He lets things go, and it is very hard for me to see how they try to get over and then have to put on a fake smile. My SIL is the queen of fake, when it is to her advantage she pretends to be so sweet and nice, all while she tries to get over on you for her benefit. I don't want my children anywhere near them, as I want my children to have some morals..unlike them. Thanks- I feel better already! Glad to hear I’m not the only one with in-law issues!!!
My issues are with my brother-in-law and his wife. They are 2 of a kind…selfish, scheming and untrustworthy! Over the years I have biten my tongue too many times to count but my patience with their nonsense is running out. I hate having to spend any time with them, and avoid them whenever possible. My mother-in-law is great, but when it comes to them they can do no wrong…it is kind of scary because my MIL is not well, and they seem to be trying to take advantage of her and her sickened condition. They would screw family over for a penny. My husband is great, but like his mother, he may be too nice for his own good. He lets things go, and it is very hard for me to see how they try to get over and then have to put on a fake smile. My SIL is the queen of fake, when it is to her advantage she pretends to be so sweet and nice, all while she tries to get over on you for her benefit. I don’t want my children anywhere near them, as I want my children to have some morals..unlike them. Thanks- I feel better already!

]]> By: Anu http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/comment-page-1/#comment-101813 Anu Tue, 12 May 2009 06:06:08 +0000 http://www.rookiemoms.com/deal-with-your-in-laws/#comment-101813 I just have a grudge towards my mil. She seems to be i know it all very arrogant and pretends to be nice.. i just feel for her trap. i don't know whats in her mind every time she mails me nice.. i feel she scans my mind and thoughts.. i literally fear having conversation with her.and she keeps praising my husband brother wife.. from the time i entered my marriage she kept saying there were better proposals which used to come for him . i cant stand the way she loves herself. and her fake smile and laugh .. we both know we dont like each other. I hope things change.. i have this very bad feeling when i have to talk to her or mail her however nice she may seem tto be.. I just have a grudge towards my mil. She seems to be i know it all very arrogant and pretends to be nice.. i just feel for her trap. i don’t know whats in her mind every time she mails me nice.. i feel she scans my mind and thoughts.. i literally fear having conversation with her.and she keeps praising my husband brother wife.. from the time i entered my marriage she kept saying there were better proposals which used to come for him . i cant stand the way she loves herself. and her fake smile and laugh .. we both know we dont like each other. I hope things change.. i have this very bad feeling when i have to talk to her or mail her however nice she may seem tto be..

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