Daycare, hurts so good.

I soooo agree!! The first month of transition is soooo hard for Mama! When I went back to work, I was able to leave my son with hmy husband, who as a teacher was off for the summer. Still, even with our son in the very capable hands of his Dad – my heart was breaking!!! After 3 months (plus 9!!!) Of having my precious baby with me 24/7 – it was a very hard seperation to make. I treasured my “alone” time at the office… Yet I felt like I left a piece of my body (and arm, a heart?) At home. It does get easier/better.

So true! I put my 5-month old in evening care for 5 hours twice a week. While it is hard on me, it’s almost harder on her! She has had stranger anxiety since she was 2 months old. So it is taking her a very long time to warm up to the childcare staff (she still refuses to take a bottle from them!).

It is very nice to be able to concentrate on my school work for that little bit every week and not have to worry about calming a fussy baby or nursing or playing. But I still miss her SO bad during those few hours.

Oh Heather! Having witness the pout first hand, I know this is very hard for you. I love the honesty about your post. But you know the part I love the best, ‘the almost-definitely-sure’ Sawyer will be an awesome duck, and you will transition beautifully.

I am a new mom and go back to work mid-March. Even though he will only be with a nanny two days a week, I am dreading the separation. The dread I feel suprises me, as I thought that after 4 months of being at home I would be beyond ready to get back to work to refocus on my career, talk to adults, etc. Part of me is, but the other part anticipates feeling such a loss. I am sure my baby will thrive and will be just fine, but I know it’s going to be tough for me.

It’s still hard for this new mom who has been back-to-work for almost 3 months! Every single day. Thank you for writing this. Sometimes I forget that I’m not the only one who had to go back to work after loving being a mom.

You should read the 10X Rule by Grant Cardone. I am still at home with my nearly 3-Year-Old. He is flourishing and prospering and currently being home-schooled. I will not send him to a daycare. My philosophic and religious beliefs have led me down the path of not allowing others to influence his development because I know that you do to others what was done to you. You cannot watch other people with your kids every minute they are with them and every minute counts regardless of what you think. I don’t say “no,” “stop,” “be quiet,” “Shush,” “cannot” and “don’t” to my kid. Instead, we concentrate on helping learn what he can do. We help him win and earn his wins! Life is a game and there are rules to play by. He is learning the dangers but he must also know there are freedoms too! Nobody, like some daycare stranger is going to do all of that for him. They have too many to manage and their beliefs and individual viewpoints will definitely conflict with our goals and aims for him as an individual. Also, daycare personnel are often psychiatrically-friendly folks who may resort to labeling children as “mentally ill” by calling them ADD or ADHD which is ridiculous. I’d hate to have my child around children being labeled as such. It’s such a dangerous downspiraling path because psychiatry is such a quack profession that creates its mental “illnesses” by a show of hands at their conventions to add them to their billing bible, the DSM, so they are in essence a religious/belief system that the medical, court and school systems have bought into.

My husband and I work out my production days and times. That’s when I do all of my work. Otherwise, there are things we do together. It’s important to help mold your child independently and to make sure that your child gets to practice his self-determinism. I am not preparing my child for public school, so this way works out great for us. Here are a few quotes I recently discovered along the lines of how we are helping our child by not sending him to daycare because investing our time into him FULLY is loving and helpful. Paying someone else to do their way is less valuable and impresses a lifetime of influence over him: “The world around a child is a bright, bright world. A child comes in with the idea that he is free. He has a new start, he’s got a new chance. He will make a go of it and so on. He’s got that new hope. And that child goes downhill and becomes impossible to the degree that he loses that hope.”

Another quote is this: “Safety is not really a popular subject, because it is usually accompanied by “be careful” and “go slow,” people can feel restrains are being put on them. But there is another approach: if one is really practiced, his skill and dexterity is such that he doesn’t have to “be careful” or “go slow.” Safe high speed of motion becomes possible only with practice. One’s skill and dexterity must be brought up to match the speed of the age one lives in. And that is done with practice.”

One more quote: “A civilization, to survive, must nurture the habits and abilities to study in its schools. A school is not a place where one puts children to get them out from underfoot during the day. That would be far too expensive for just that. It is not a place where one manufactures parrots. School is where one should learn to study and where children can be prepared to grips with reality, learn to handle it with competence and be readied to take over tomorrow’s world, the world where current adults will be in their later middle or old age.”

The author of these quotes is L. Ron Hubbard and these were taken from a recent course I completed called How to Achieve Self-Confidence, so I derived this information for empowering my parenthood. I am now on the next course called Successfully Raising Children.