This is me trying to take a little bit of control of my own destiny for Mother’s Day. Is that so wrong?
My husband knows what I want on Mother’s Day to a T, and he does his very best for me: little people are extra friendly; we all eat brunch; he fields the dirty diapers and discipline as much as is humanly possible. Maybe there is chocolate. Done and done.
Beyond the basics, he will sometimes surprise me with a some bonus alone time. He takes the boys to the library or park for a few hours and tells me to be happy, relax, and do no work.
But, what should I do? Without any notice, I sometimes end up feeling banished from my own family. I sure as heck better come up with something worthy of this precious gift of time!
As a favor to myself (and perhaps you), I thought we could brainstorm a few great ways to spend that imaginary three hours of selfish indulgence:
Massage. You want a massage on Mother’s Day? You might as well book it now, sweetie. Don’t get kicked out of the house on Sunday morning expecting to find a spa opening.
Last minute option: Grab your flip flops and try for a walk-in pedicure.
See a movie. I love to see movies alone, but if that’s not your thing, find a friend and book tickets for something girly.
Last minute option: Grab a smartphone or tablet for a Netflix binge session. I’ve done this in my minivan, but somehow that seems more tragic than festive. Maybe you can do it in the corner of a cafe after ordering a mimosa.
Walk or run with a friend. Can you conspire with a girlfriend to get out of the house together? Meet at your favorite trail and hike in relative peace.
Last minute option: Put on your running shoes and just GO, do not look back!
Brunch, or something like it. High-end places might require reservations on this holiday, but you alone with your book can sit at the counter.
Last minute option: Brunch line still too long? Put on a podcast and carry your cronuts to a park bench with a view (preferably not of a playground!).
Uninterrupted reading. Grab a good book and pick a nice place to read — better than your car. I’m reading The Boys in the Boat.
Last minute option: Download a new kindle book or find two new magazines to peruse.
In the past, when things don’t go my way on Mother’s Day, it feels like this.
If I manage my expectations and go share some of that love with my own mama, it is a happier day for everyone.
Happy Mother’s Day planning, friends. What’s on your list?